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这是正常的照顾者成为沮丧啊r impatient? I ask my Dad not to move certain things, and he tries to tell me he knows better. As soon as I leave, he ends up eventually moving it may it be right away or the next day. I become frustrated and repeat myself to him, and then I get the cold shoulder, or he walks away. Today I asked him not to walk away while I talked to him and mention how you would like it if someone walked away while you spoke to them and that it was rude. He stopped and listen, but now I feel so utterly guilty for visibly showing my frustration and repeating myself. I always end up apologizing, and it seems he plays on my emotions. I always end up feeling guilty.

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是。这通常始于3-6个月的年龄,持续一生:)
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cherokeegrrl54 5.hours ago
哦,这是个好!!!大声笑
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O.h my goodness , been there , done that. It sounds like your dad knows your buttons and how to push them . It is perfectly normal for you to become impatient and frustrated with him. Did he not become impatient and frustrated if you did not follow his rules when you were growing up? I have gone through the same or similar situations with my mother many , many times. I found that it helped if I took the time to ask why she wanted to do something differently than I did. Ask for his opinion , make him feel like he is still useful, still capable of making a decision. Then sometimes, when it comes to little things, if it is not a something that endangers him or your family, give in , do things his way. I hope this makes sense to you and does not stress you further but I have learned a lot over the last few years about dealing with a parent who has always and still thinks their way is best, their way is right. Try some relaxation and stress relief techniques to help you deal with those times when you want to explode. There are thousands of results in a google search for tips.
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所有护理人员都失去了耐心,并且有时会沮丧(如果他们是诚实的话)。而不仅仅是那些关心父母的关怀。在多年来,我偶尔会失去我的耐心或对我的丈夫感到沮丧,或者我是他的照顾者。我也会感到糟糕并道歉。但真的,我们都只是人,我们都有我们的突破点。不幸的是,它附带了该领土。只要知道你做得最好,你可以剪掉一些懈怠。当事情到达沸点时,就在你的背部门廊上出来,放出一个大的尖叫声。你是惊讶的。
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cherokeegrrl54 5.hours ago
Yes and the old standby, scream into a pillow works very well in releasing stress!!! Try it
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“.....有时....”?几乎不断地怎么样?

“内疚”是如此无用。它没有帮助我们做得更好或更甚至不同的事情。它只是坐在那里,捏捏和踢我们,而我们的洛杉矶一直在做他们所做的事情,似乎不是感到内疚。

让它走,如果你正在做最好的,你可以随着你对他的担忧而言,不要烦恼响起它。

Can you simplify, or organize or put away or fasten down what he moves that you don’t want moved, so that the issue doesn’t become a guilt producer?

无论情况如何,如果你能在你结束之前操纵它,那就不必面对他,这对你来说是一个双赢。
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运营商 Nov 29, 2020
谢谢。
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It is the guilt that eats me up for being impatient at times. Mind you I have always been sensitive to feeling guilty easliy.
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janicefj. Nov 30, 2020
我觉得你的内疚!你有我的同情。你爸爸和你一起生活多久了?他多大了?

mom is 92, has dementia and she drives me batty at times. The hardest for me to overcome was her incontinence (I'm still struggling). She pulls her pullups down as soon as she gets in the bathroom and dribbles from the door to the commode. Or she will insist she doesn't need to go to the bathroom and unless I can distract her, she will sit there and not go, insisting she doesn't have to go until she gets up and starts dribbling or sometimes she gets her pants up before she wets them. But in this case, I have it better than you because I know where to look, lol. And when I get aggravated (she's almost deaf, even with her hearing aids, so I have to raise my voice for her to hear) she says "yes, mama, I'm sorry" really contritely. It's cute and brings me back to reality that she isn't behaving badly on purpose.

When your Dad moves things, you probably don't know where he put them. And maybe he even tells you he didn't move it and you must have (another of Mom's lines).

练习自我同情心。如果你的朋友在你的位置,你会把她厌恶她的愤怒/不耐烦,或者你会告诉她,当她一直如此大的压力时,感觉很自然?

我希望找到一个安全的地方通风口,在那里你不会被评判,你将被理解(意味着这个论坛)会有所帮助。新利18luck网址它肯定会帮助我。

Prayers for you and your Dad.
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大多数父母都知道如何推动我们的按钮...........因为他们安装了它们!对你的父亲感到沮丧和不耐烦是非常正常的,我很确定我们有时候都是这样的,因为我们都是人。如果你会感到如此内疚和抱歉,你谈论你的思想,下次他做了一些刺激性,请尝试离开房间而不是说什么。然后回来一段时间,看看你是否仍然觉得需要解决此事。它可能只是通过,你不必说一件事。

另一方面,如果你的父亲在你和他在一起的时候走开时,在我的脑海中,你的脑子里就是非常好的让你打电话给他!必要地设置与某人的边界,否则他们可以在你做的时候走遍你们!

祝好运!
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